When conflict arises in a group, people process and become ready to move forward at difference paces. And we all need to recognize that we’re in different places, and that’s okay. Satan can easily use something as simple as that to increase tension in relationships, as we either become impatient with people for not moving fast enough or frustrated with people who seem to not care.
But at an even deeper level, I’ve realized through this that as a Body, we need people to be in different places. Those who process faster or who are more removed from the conflict (such that they don’t feel as affected) help us remember that we need to move forward. That life will go on beyond just this particular situation. And those who are challenging and asking many questions out of their deep hurt, help us to seek change and be passionate about growth. We’d probably never move forward if we were all sitting in our pain and trying to get answers about the past, and we’d miss opportunities to grow or move too quickly if we just pushed on to get back to “normal.”